Think About How You’re Living vs. How You Really Want to Live
When was the last time you took a hard look at your life and asked yourself, Am I truly living the life I want? For most people, life moves quickly—work, responsibilities, routines—and before you know it, the days blur together. But here’s the truth: the life you’re living right now is a direct reflection of your choices, habits, and mindset. If it doesn’t align with the life you truly want, it’s time to get clear on the gap between where you are and where you want to be.
Living intentionally means creating a life that reflects your deepest values, desires, and goals. If you feel a disconnect between your current reality and your ideal life, this is your opportunity to realign, refocus, and take meaningful action.
Step 1: Reflect on Your Current Life
Take an honest inventory of your life right now. What does a typical day look like for you? Are you fulfilled by the work you do? Do you have time for things that matter to you—your passions, relationships, self-care? Or do you feel like you’re on autopilot, stuck in routines that don’t inspire you?
Ask yourself:
- How am I spending my time and energy each day?
- Am I genuinely satisfied with my relationships, career, and health?
- What parts of my life make me feel alive, and what parts drain me?
Identifying what’s working and what’s not is the first step. You can’t change what you don’t acknowledge, so be brutally honest. Look at the areas where you feel unfulfilled, bored, or even resentful. These are the clues to what needs realignment.
Step 2: Get Clear on How You Want to Live
Now that you’ve identified where you are, let’s get clear on where you want to go. Imagine yourself living a life that genuinely excites and fulfills you. This isn’t just about having more money, a better job, or the perfect relationship—it’s about feeling aligned, purposeful, and fully alive.
Think about:
- Your Ideal Day: What would you do if you had total freedom over your time and choices? What kind of activities, people, and environments would fill your day?
- Core Values: What values do you want your life to reflect? Maybe it’s health, adventure, creativity, connection, or growth. Define these clearly.
- Personal Growth and Impact: What kind of person do you want to become? What impact do you want to make in the lives of those around you?
The clearer you are about the life you want, the easier it is to take steps in that direction. When you have a vision, you have a roadmap, and that’s when real transformation begins.
Step 3: Identify the Gap
Now it’s time to look at the space between how you’re currently living and how you want to live. This gap represents the changes you need to make, the habits you need to build, and the mindset shifts required to create a life that aligns with your true desires.
Reflect on questions like:
- What habits or routines are keeping me stuck in my current life?
- What beliefs or fears are holding me back from pursuing the life I want?
- What changes, big or small, could I start making today to close the gap?
Identifying the gap doesn’t mean you’ll change everything overnight, but it gives you a clear understanding of the adjustments needed. Some shifts may be small, like spending more time on self-care, while others may be larger, like changing careers or ending toxic relationships. The important thing is to acknowledge the gap and commit to closing it.
Step 4: Start Making Intentional Changes
Dreaming about the life you want is just the beginning—now it’s time to take action. Each step, no matter how small, brings you closer to a life of fulfillment, purpose, and alignment.
Here’s how to start:
Set Clear Goals: Define specific, actionable goals that align with the life you want. Whether it’s developing a new skill, changing your daily routine, or investing in personal growth, have clear milestones that move you forward.
Build Habits That Support Your Vision: Your daily habits shape your future. Start building habits that support your ideal life. If health is a priority, commit to regular exercise and mindful eating. If relationships matter most, prioritize quality time with loved ones.
Challenge Limiting Beliefs: Often, the biggest obstacle to change is our own mindset. Identify and challenge any beliefs that tell you “it’s too late,” “I’m not capable,” or “it’s too risky.” Replace these with empowering beliefs that support your vision.
Take Consistent Action: Change doesn’t happen overnight, but it does happen with consistent effort. Set aside time each day to work toward your vision, whether it’s a small habit, a bold decision, or a mindset shift. Consistency is key.
Step 5: Reflect and Realign Regularly
Living intentionally isn’t a one-time decision; it’s an ongoing commitment. Life changes, priorities shift, and so will your vision. Make it a habit to check in with yourself regularly. Reflect on what’s working, what’s not, and what adjustments you need to make.
Ask yourself:
- Am I living in alignment with my vision and values?
- Have I taken meaningful steps toward the life I want?
- What adjustments do I need to make to stay on track?
Each time you reflect, you have the chance to make adjustments that bring you closer to your ideal life.
Live a Life That’s Truly Yours
The life you’re living right now is either moving you closer to or further from the life you truly want. The choice to make that shift, to bridge the gap between your current reality and your ideal life, is yours. Don’t wait for “someday.” Start today by defining what truly matters, acknowledging where you are, and making the intentional changes needed to create a life of purpose, alignment, and fulfillment.
Book Your Free Discovery Call Now to explore the gap between how you’re living and the life you really want. Let’s work together to create a roadmap for a life that aligns with your deepest values and goals. Don’t let another day slip by—start living intentionally, and design a life you’ll look back on with pride.